You can have compassion towards the old times. That’s how I found healing. Loving someone through all the different versions of themselves, even the ones that hurt me, because I know they can do better and they weren’t vibrating at their highest frequency at the time because of the situations that had unfolded. It’s best to let go of expectations, . And recognize that they can’t always meet you where you need them to, but don’t have expectations that they will. Just love purely and freely.