My web browser holds onto my bookmarks, and even starts to suggest frequently-visited websites when I type URLs into the bar. Do you really want to call that "learning?" Learning of the kind that's necessary to support interactions where trust and forgiveness are meaningful concepts?

It seems like you're trying to use the word "learning" to import a huge amount of psychological realism so you can argue that people have an obligation to treat every neural network exactly like we treat humans -- humans that are unimaginably more mentally sophisticated than a computer file that contains numeric weightings.