Im glad you brought up that they often have others sustain them.

To be frank, I"m kind of jealous of these people. Like you can just sit around and be, and people still love and take care of you.

I have a residual "nothing i do is good enough" and "i never work hard enough" from my family. I've worked since i was 17 and was expected to miss holidays, ect as I was young and "just getting started". I wasn't really invited to them once I moved out on my own. I'm considered the slacker out of my cousins. As I only have a bachelors, i don't have my own house, and i don't have a life partner. I wish i could just be and people would be ok with "DJdoogood needs help, and we got them."