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Candid-Molasses-6204 t1_ixhgc5g wrote

I'm a "successful male", married with two kids. It's brutal, working a demanding job with a spouse who also has a demanding job. If I were unhappy and got divorced I would be on the hook for 70% of my salary counting alimony and child support. I could make it work, but I could see how the prospect would crush most people.

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Baalsham t1_ixi4gog wrote

The definition of success definitely ain't what it used to be.

I'm trying to get to a point where one of us can stay home before having children but the big challenge is you have to pay a lot for school (either expensive homes in a good district or private school)

Hope the government starts investing in the future before it's too late...

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Candid-Molasses-6204 t1_ixi7ik0 wrote

Go for the school district. The government ain't coming to help you. If the kids gotta share a room or live in a basement that's a solveable problem. Private school will bleed you.

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Smart-Rip-3733 t1_ixidlqy wrote

The school thing is about Values. I pay $1000.00 a month for private school for my sons because high quality education is a Value. Education is how I escaped poverty so this is closely held.

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Candid-Molasses-6204 t1_ixjfkbq wrote

If you research public vs private, it's more about the values you instill at home. Assuming the school works for the child (Montessori for example) it's a wash. Interesting note, even in poor school districts kids don't really deviate much until 3rd grade. That's where school actually matters. Source: Freakonomics, book and podcast

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