>That's exactly how it works. To use the star was just recently consumed. This is our reality and it is 100% true.

No it's not. We know that what we are observing happened hundreds of millions of years ago and not recently. Hence this event did not happen in October 2018 - we know it didn't, because w eknow that the speed of light remains constant over galactic and intergalactic distances. That we are observing the event just now has no bearing over when it originally happened.

>It's not that the black hole isn't aware of you.

I am reasonably certain that a black hole isn't aware of anything, regardless of reference frame, and that both we and the black hole can indeed exist in the same referance frame.