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BurrrritoBoy t1_j6dyk0t wrote

I’d say you tried to make her happy by installing what she was too cheap to have a pro install.

Aka “look what you made me do.”

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JustifedOrgasm t1_j6dylv8 wrote

Get rid of nagging girlfriend. All problems solved.

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adventuref0x t1_j6dyu0x wrote

She insisted on a cabinet, I said I’d prefer a mirror that way the fittings wouldn’t need to hold so much weight, or even better could have used a sticky back mirror and then wouldn’t have needed any fittings

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2001sleeper t1_j6dyyu2 wrote

Drywall should be attached to studs, right? Or are your saying that there are no studs?

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Phptower t1_j6dza7x wrote

Photo? I have also everywhere drywalls or plasterboard, not stone walls. It's horrible.

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Theelfsmother t1_j6dzbbu wrote

You sound like she needs a new man in her life.

Anyway, you should have used rawl plugs in the concrete with screws long enough to go into the concrete.

You can still do this, the cabinet will hide the hole in the wall. If so much plaster in gone that you can't hang it used some wood to bridge the gap and screw that to the wall, filling the hole.

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DarkAthena t1_j6dzio5 wrote

Tell her she wanted this done so either she does it or pays to get it done. Now she needs to pay to fix it.

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AmbitiousHedgehog313 t1_j6dzq2o wrote

Dude, your attitude is awful.

I don't understand why someone would not want to be able to maintain their home. It's a basic life skill. This concept that we have to get someone in to do everything for us drives me nuts.

These days, there is so much help available, you have no excuse.

Can you post a pic of your wall anchors, and of the thing you are trying to hang?

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radalicious123 t1_j6e0x05 wrote

At this point it might not be too much extra trouble to cut out the damaged drywall and fasten in some wood blocking to screw the cabinet to (how deep is the air gap?) Then fix the drywall. Def a bit of work but once you're on the hook for a drywall repair anyway...

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Pendegen t1_j6e1c09 wrote

Could’ve been worse. Drilling into bathroom walls and even rooms adjacent to bathroom walls usually ends up in a pressured line being pierced when there’s a noob around. Post on Airtasker. It’s a 15min job $50 at a stretch.

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adventuref0x t1_j6e1vmq wrote

I became a race mechanic because I started off by fucking around rebuilding a motorbike having never touched a spanner before.

I am all for learning and doing jobs myself but not if it’s going to lead to me getting it in the neck because I’ve done something wrong while learning honestly if I hear her say ‘why are you doing that if you don’t know what you’re doing’ once again I’m getting in my car and driving until I run out of gas.

Also there’s so much more that can go wrong with home maintenance, like I’ve just fucked the wall, that’s now however many hundreds to get someone out the year out that bit of plasterboard, install a new bit, plaster and paint and then another hundred or so to get someone to mount the fucking thing, it’s just not worth the risks

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cookerg t1_j6e2892 wrote

"Yes!! I do not know what I am doing!! We need someone who does know!!"

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adventuref0x t1_j6e2gab wrote

Ah no, there’s a cover over the sewer pipes behind the toilet that’ll make one of those difficult to put up, the fact everything is on show would drive her nuts too that’s the only reason we are getting this cabinet instead of a mirror, she wants to remove all evidence of someone living there

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Theelfsmother t1_j6e2ked wrote

No it will be grand if you use good size 5 screws. Only screw as far as the plasterboard don't screw the screw in all the way to the concrete. If you have 20mm of air you might use a 5 x 70 screw. A red rawl plug will hold it good and tight.

Adjust sizes for America i suppose. I don't know your system. I'm in mm

Use a 5.5 drill bit.

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Pendegen t1_j6e2v8v wrote

Only if you damage outside of the area you are covering with the cabinet.

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ElBrad t1_j6e3urx wrote

Maybe his skillset is in a different field? I can't fix a car, but I'm pretty decent at most basic home improvement things. I'm not a coder, but my houseplants are healthy.

Just about everyone has things they're good at, and things they're not. Just because someone doesn't have the same interests or abilities that you do doesn't make them less of a person.

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m_smg t1_j6e4sgu wrote

I disagree. He accepted the task, so he's responsible for finishing it, one way or another. Suppose you hired a handy person to do this, and they got to this point and gave up. You'd be pretty upset with them for wrecking your wall, right? Even if they didn't demand payment, you'd probably expect them to at least put it back in order. This situation is a great illustration of why we need to be careful about committing to take, but is also a great chance to learn to do the right thing, even if it's difficult or expensive.

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m_smg t1_j6e52rn wrote

BTW, it sounds like you're pretty irritated. Maybe the first step is to take a deep breath and ignore the problem until everyone is calm?

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Soma_Dosed t1_j6e587e wrote

Cut and sand, polish (two) plank(s)large enough to hold the cabinet. Looks better than raw wood. Anchor plank to and running across the studs each side of where you want the cabinet to hang.

Bolt the cabinet in to the board.

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AmbitiousHedgehog313 t1_j6e587j wrote

I think this is a lie we are told by society. It only serves capitalism. It's a lie that takes away from you as a human being.

I think we all have within us the ability to do the things needed to go about out lives (physical disabilities notwithstanding).

Anyone can (and should) learn to paint a wall, put up shelves. change the oil on their car, fix a leaky gutter, unblock a drain.

Specialisation is great for more complex skills, and especially for skills that take years to master. I don't think anyone should do their own surgery. But I do think everyone should be able to put up a medicine cabinet.

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ozonejl t1_j6e5qdu wrote

Sometimes it takes people some time. I grew up in a trailer and wasn’t exposed to certain things about real houses. My dad was handy but had close to zero interest in teaching me. My wife and I’s old house has basically been 16 years of hands on training.

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adventuref0x t1_j6e5r5b wrote

I am pretty irritated. I went from having never touched a spanner to being a race mechanic because I rebuilt a bike I’m a firm believer in learning by doing.

She has no interest in doing anything like this and expects me to do it all yet if I do something wrong I get it in the neck it’s actually bullshit

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adventuref0x t1_j6e653c wrote

A stud finder wouldn’t have made any difference here, the cabinet has two fixing points. If it’s mounted central to the sink those brackets are nowhere near any studs you can hear that by knocking.

All a stud finder is going to do is tell me where the studs are that I can’t mount to.

And given that this is the only cabinet I’ve ever had to or ever will mount to a semi external wall like this there’s no point spending money on one

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2001sleeper t1_j6e6tok wrote

From all the posts here it sounds like you are more interested in justifying your mistake instead of learning the way to do. You have a custom application and need a custom solution and do not have the skill set it seems.

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Few_Ad_5677 t1_j6e6ve2 wrote

Seems like a post for a toxic relationship sub

Tell her you’re not sure and you don’t want to fuck it up and she should pay for a pro

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fugsco t1_j6e7eny wrote

You need a French Cleat. Look it up, super easy, super strong, super cheap.

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UD_Lover t1_j6e7o3h wrote

You’re not wrong, but there’s really no excuse for not being able to handle very basic home maintenance & repair. You don’t need to be a professional contractor to hang a shelf or patch a hole.

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