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kesagatame-and-Chill t1_j6od9hx wrote

Have you spoken to your kids about their behavior? Have you spoken to the teachers and administrators about this decision? Have you gone to a school board meeting and made your concerns heard? Just curious. We recently had a similar situation where I live, I asked my kid about it and he admitted that the kids in the situation are extremely disruptive. Two sides to every story.

My impulse is to always talk to the adults first, get their perspective and go from there.

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newmoon23 t1_j6okuva wrote

Kids are often disruptive when they have pent up energy or need a break. Taking away their only opportunity to get that is just asking for them to be more disruptive.

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kesagatame-and-Chill t1_j6om0tf wrote

Or maybe they are kids who need their behavior addressed by their parents; I know that sounds crazy because everyone's child is a precious snowflake.

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newmoon23 t1_j6opo9r wrote

Look, some disruptive kids do have genuine issues with inattentive parents. But the majority of the time it's just kids being kids and needing an outlet to release their energy. Taking that option away does absolutely NOTHING to help the issues but rather makes them worse.

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kesagatame-and-Chill t1_j6osa9z wrote

It is always possible that your kid was in the wrong place at the wrong time. However, the majority of the time, it is the kids. If not your kid directly, the company they keep. You can only find this out if you talk to the educators and adults there. If your kid is not in the wrong, you should all work it out as adults. They will want that.

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newmoon23 t1_j6ow51y wrote

Wrong place at the wrong time? We are talking about minor disciplinary issues, like speaking out of turn, being distracting, etc. These are not bad kids, and these issues don't mean they have bad parents or role models. it's normal child behavior. Punishing normal child behavior by taking away their one outlet to blow off steam during the day is just asking for more issues. It is completely counter-productive and frankly, stupid.

No one is saying "don't punish bad behavior." we are simply saying that this particular punishment doesn't work and is in fact making things worse.

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kesagatame-and-Chill t1_j6p257t wrote

Are you sure that is the reason? If so, I agree that the punishment doesn't fit the infraction. I think there is something more.

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newmoon23 t1_j6p40f9 wrote

OP said it herself. So you can think whatever you want but you’re not basing it on the information given to you.

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kesagatame-and-Chill t1_j6p1xjo wrote

Do you have evidence of this? Something like this must go through school administration, and people who are experts in the field.

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