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Vness374 t1_j6mxrfh wrote

Hey! I’m an old lady, so probably not gonna be able to help you in the socializing department (I’m a homebody myself) but can I ask… do you work? I found that during Covid and even after when I couldn’t find work (fucking ageism in restaurants is no joke) I got really depressed. No that I’m working again, and forced to be around people, my depression is gone. We are social animals, whether we feel that way or not. If you are not working, or working from home, would you consider getting a part-time job? You will totally make friends at work!

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ccorbs89 OP t1_j6my937 wrote

I do in fact work full time. I try to separate my work life from my personal/family life as I already spend way too much time at work.

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Vness374 t1_j6myh8y wrote

Totally understand. I guess my work has always been entwined in my personal… I met my ex husband at work and all of my best friends are people I worked with at some point

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IndicationOver t1_j6nkokl wrote

There's A Big Difference Between Your Work Friends And Your Real Friends

I guess that works for you but I would never date co worker and work friends have boundaries imo. You have made work your identity with no outside life.

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Vness374 t1_j6nrv5w wrote

Maybe true when I was in my 20’s. But I’m 48 and def don’t hang out with my coworkers anymore, as they are all half my age. I’m friendly with them, and we have fun at work (you have to in restaurants or you’ll end up crying in the walk-in)

All of my friends are people I met at different jobs, but 20-30 years ago.

Edit: a letter

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IndicationOver t1_j6nvo50 wrote

Like I said it works for you. I have worked in food service before so I know how kitchen culture goes. Still the same response.

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