Your options are picking a place both of you will hate life or just the one going to Boston will suffer. I wouldn’t do that commute for less than 400k a year even one day a week. i had a radiology class at boston university and even coming from the north I left at 330 for a 8 am class with mins to spare, the only flight I’ve ever missed was going to Logan left at 4 for a 1140am flight from. Groton ct