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[deleted] OP t1_iub88wo wrote

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I don't want him to move away from my home. I want to teach him some life lessons and he should stay with his parents until he turns 18 and go to college. Is spanking and using corporal punishment ok? The good thing is I am not violent and use corporal punishment, but whenever my son misbehaves, my father (his grandpa) goes and spanks him. When I go to work, his grandpa is always at home and my son listens to grandpa a lot. He is still crazy and sick thinking, how is he mature to move out on his own if he is like this, always looking at YouTube and MrBeast and similar silly videos as he is very inappropriate? He cannot take care of himself even though he does all the chores at home.

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Confident_Attitude t1_iub9rio wrote

Why are you asking people on the internet this over and over? Why not speak to a professional who can help you mitigate your family tensions and teach you better ways to communicate your concerns to your son and in turn listen to his reasoning?

Instead you are telling strangers how much the towns they live in suck and exposing many details about your personal life.

I say this as a person who has been to therapy, you won’t find what you are looking for on Reddit you’ll find it in speaking with a qualified professional psychologist or LCSW.

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[deleted] OP t1_iubkszo wrote

I met therapist. They are all trash. They love to trash talk about me and my son because they think I am crazy for not sending him to Boston. He dreams of coming to Boston since 2018 when he was 7, but I really hate Boston. I love a big house in countryside so nobody could bother me and no traffic and no fucking shit like this.

My son hated Holden. He wanted to stay in Worcester more, but he prefers to go to school in the city, which meant around Boston and Cambridge. However, I told him that (even though I have a 1500 sqft house in Worcester and pay 1000 a month on the house) that I could not afford to live in Boston because Boston is too expensive for me. He accused me of lying, but I am telling him the truth. Instead, I could afford a 750 thousand dollar 3000 sqft house in Holden, buy a nice BMW X4 and a Hyundai Tucson and send him to Saint Johns
Rather than us staying in Worcester and us sending him to a private school like Boston University Academy in Boston
1000+4500 = 5500 a month (if he went to private school in Boston and we sent him to my uncle and aunt's house)
4000+1000+500+1500 = 7000 a month (if we bought the house in Holden, two new cars, and sent him to Saint Johns)
I think it is better to send him to Saint Johns so that he could meet me every day so I could monitor his computer time and what he does on the internet and not let him watch YouTube videos such as Ali-A, Fornite, MrBeast, PewDiePie or tech destruction videos since I believe they are crazy and they ruin his brain.
Also, I want him to appreciate that I do the best for him.
If he betrays me and gets angry at me, I would tell him:
"When I come home, at least a dog hugs me and welcomes me with open arms. You are human, even a dog knows how to love me. You have to be smarter than a dog."
當我回到家時，至少有一隻狗擁抱了我，張開雙臂迎接我。你是人，連狗都能愛你。你必須比狗聰明。
I want to teach him some life skills and want him to stay home until he turns 18 and goes to college.

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