Submitted by babathebear t3_10liaoi in BuyItForLife

Not expecting the pillow to last a lifetime haha but you get the idea. I’m a side sleeper, I sleep on my stomach sometimes or don’t even use a pillow (very rarely). Tried IKEA and many from Costco (memory foam), nothing is really comfortable, my neck hurts. Why is it so tough to find a good pillow?

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salamanderbiscuits t1_j5x503o wrote

Love my coop home goods pillow. Can add or remove the stuffing so you can adjust it to what you prefer

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mrsredfast t1_j5x8grl wrote

Hard agree. I have RA and traditionally have had a difficult time being comfortable lying down. Slept on them exclusively for two years now and the improvement in my neck pain is almost unbelievable. I now take one whenever I travel.

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ItalianMama94 t1_j5x5v3e wrote

Been looking into these for my husband and I! I keep seeing great things everywhere

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sodakillsjesussaves t1_j5x10ce wrote

If you are a side sleeper, the Elviros Cervical Pillow on Amazon is legit!

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huge43 t1_j5xcble wrote

Reading your comment I looked it up. Reviews seem to be mixed at best. What do you like about it?

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sodakillsjesussaves t1_j5yqyju wrote

The cut-out in the middle keeps my head fairly neutral throughout the night. I tend to curl a flat pillow around my arm and into my neck causing some major lateral flexion and rotation. This pillow doesn’t allow that. My regular contour was decent, but I still would wake up with some pain. This was less expensive than that pillow and helps more. A pillow is a very subjective item. But for $35 and able to return it if I didn’t like it, sign me up!

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babathebear OP t1_j5x301n wrote

Wow that shape, added to my cart. Can’t sleep because of my current pillow.

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rushmc1 t1_j5ywx43 wrote

Eww, it doesn't take a pillowcase?

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sodakillsjesussaves t1_j5yx2cu wrote

How tall was your ladder to reach that conclusion? Yes it has a pillowcase! I’m not disgusting.

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rushmc1 t1_j5yxft4 wrote

I looked at the link online where a) no one in the photos was using one, and b) it doesn't look like one would even go over it with that design.

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sodakillsjesussaves t1_j5yxr1j wrote

It’s an advertisement for a pillow. You want to show the pillow! And a pillow case is fabric over a pillow. It fits the shape. It’s not a rigid structure. Mattress ads have people sleeping without sheets all the time!

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rushmc1 t1_j5yzfbf wrote

Well, I'm glad to hear it. Because that would, indeed, be disgusting.

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caskey t1_j5x273f wrote

I replaced mine with the Casper ones on Amazon. They've served well. Also if your neck is hurting be sure to get a low fill/thin pillow.

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BoopTheCoop t1_j5ximn2 wrote

I second the Casper. I have the “essential standard” with a firm-ish core and “plush” outer layer. I’ve been through dozens of pillows, this is by far the greatest pillow invention on the planet. Somehow it stays supportive in whatever way you need it, yet cradles your head and neck in a soft pillowy kiss. I have nerve damage in my neck that makes my arm numb if I sleep on my side, but not with my BFF Casper. It is pillow perfection.

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Previousl3 t1_j5xdqu7 wrote

Thin pillows made a big difference for me. I use a latex foam one that's like 2" and a buckwheat neck pillow sometimes

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Previousl3 t1_j5yhynp wrote

I also want to try to make an infinity pillow, they look insanely comfortable but the plastic bead padding would be too thick, I'd go with some sweatshirt material and a little batting

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babathebear OP t1_j5x2wlq wrote

The low profile ones are only 1.25” thick, what’s the logic behind it to avoid neck pain? Trying to understand. Thanks

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caskey t1_j5x3mwu wrote

Doesn't bend the neck as much. Mine are down filled so when I switch to the side I can squish it up to make it thicker.

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averageRandall t1_j5x36pe wrote

I use a buckwheat pillow by Hullo. I like it cause it offers good air circulation and adjustability, it’s just kind of heavy for a pillow.

Best part is you can add, remove or replace the buckwheat hulls as needed; extending the life of the pillow.

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rosiefutures t1_j5x94ot wrote

Buckwheat hull pillows by Pinetail. So good I now have two.

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BitofaGreyArea t1_j5xchga wrote

Buckwheat pillow gang here. Had mine a little over a year now and it's changed my life. Side sleeper. It's insane how much better my sleep has been since I got it.

I think mine is by Lofe but not 100% sure there.

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DaCrazyJamez t1_j5xnyc3 wrote

Got mine from some discount/offbrand amazon deal...also love it.

Definitely not for everyone, but if you can get over it being diffeent from a normal pillow, it makes for great sleep.

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mekenikal t1_j61xxjw wrote

Buckwheat hulls pillow user for over 20 years. Very adjustable so you can make it fit right where you need in that sweet spot on your neck. All other pillows make me feel like I’m fighting to keep my head down.

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Cole3255 t1_j5x1az3 wrote

I have a pillow I bought from Pluto pillow online and I love it you get to customize it

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Cole3255 t1_j5x1j9j wrote

If anyone wants to message me I do have a referral link from when I bought mine for $10 off

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Richard_Turpin t1_j5x38j3 wrote

I have found that buckwheat or millet pillows are the most comfortable. I used a buckwheat hull pillow for nine years when I lived in Japan. After moving back to the U.S. I tried every pillow I could find in a store. None of them were very comfortable or lasted very long.

I found a millet hull pillow online and have been using it for about three-four years now. My wife stole my first one so I had to buy a second one. I love the fact that I can remove the millet and wash the fabric part of the pillow just like a pillow case.

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aavery7706 t1_j5xmzly wrote

Try a 100% natural latex pillow, many brands sell them. Medium firmness will last longer than soft but ultimately a comfort decision.

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_herb21 t1_j5yltyw wrote

Wool pillows, with a zip. You can refill them if you need to and can adjust the stuffing levels. www.baavet.co.uk

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mrjbacon t1_j60eeo4 wrote

For down pillows I recommend Pacific Coast Feather company. Buy pillows a level firmer than you think you want.

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babathebear OP t1_j60exhb wrote

I am looking for pillows that are a little firm, that’s how I like it but I am not a big fan of ‘memory foam’ spongy thickness. It feels like I’m falling into a limbo and totally not supportive. Going to check the pacific coast thx

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sport_7 t1_j5x3j1f wrote

Cosy House. Best pillow I’ve bought to date.

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lazylittlelady t1_j5x40yk wrote

Also a side/stomach sleeper and I love my down pillow. Have had it for a few years now-just fluff it regularly. Love I can adjust it based on my position.

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jessie-farsi t1_j5x6igv wrote

I have tried a bunch of pillows, and the sleep innovations memory foam contour pillow (queen) is the one I've been using for... Wow, since 2013 so 9 or 10 years now. Make sure you use the fatter side for under your neck or you get neck pain. Saw some similar reviews on amazon. Not sure I'll use a different pillow. It's the only one that relieves my neck pain.

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bellam27 t1_j5xd1a8 wrote

My husband had temperpedic when we met - so at least a decade ago and he was obsessed, I didn’t understand it. Then this Christmas we went into one of their stores when they were having a sale and we found my perfect pillow.

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Grandmakidnapper t1_j5xt121 wrote

I second tempur-pedic. They’re a bit pricey but 100% worth it. Had one for about 4 years and it still feels brand new.

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Junior_Ad2955 t1_j5y4bag wrote

Almost all pillows are either memory foam or polyester. Both suck. We love our Frankenmuth Woolen Mill pillows, their products are amazing

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graywoman7 t1_j5yg02g wrote

I’ve owned a good quality down pillow for over a decade and it’s still in great shape. I fluff it up every few days and always keep a zippered cover on it. It’s getting towards needing some extra down added since it does lose some ability to maintain full loft after years of use but that’s it to keep it going. It was an investment though at about $250 (I bought it from a place that manufactures domestically using down from geese that were raised for food).

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shannon_g t1_j5yhucv wrote

I find polyester and foam pillows far too hot. IMHO down pillows or wool pillows are the way to go. I’ve been quite happy with Pacific Coast Down

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Amyx231 t1_j5yowcd wrote

I love my bamboo Costco pillows. And the furry body pillows. Not BIFL but the bamboo ones (memory clusters) are still good after 7 years. The body pillows…well one every 3 years is more than good in my book.

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Joeriii93 t1_j5yu65y wrote

Nuzzle, backed them on Kickstarter. My backpain and neckpain are long gone. I'm a sidesleeper.

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NohPhD t1_j5z7xdz wrote

As a stomach sleeper I accidentally stumbled on the solution for me. My wife and I bought a king sized bed with individually adjustable mattresses. The mattresses are essentially two twin sized mattresses with the bed frames bound together at the head and foot.

I found if I adjust the binding strap at the head end of the mattresses to leave about a 2”-3” gap between the mattresses, I can lay comfortably face down with my face between the mattresses. It’s essentially like the hole in a massage table for your face. I use a thin, hard pillow across the gap to support my forehead which offloads the pressure on my cheeks. The gap is wide enough that plenty of air circulates.

Before discovering this arrange, I used to spin in bed like a rotisserie chicken. Now I’m comfortable all night and wake up with zero aches and pains. When we first bought the mattresses I hated that discontinuity between the mattresses but now I love it.

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NeVMiku t1_j5ztrzg wrote

Your arms.

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GamerFSS86 t1_j60d7mx wrote

Try the my pillow half stuffed one. You know the commercial my pillow.

I'm also a side sleeper and had trouble finding good pillows but this my pillow is really good I love it. I won't be getting nothing else.

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SuperDave310 t1_j684m4s wrote

I’m sure you can find another crappy shredded memory foam pillow where the lunatic owner doesn’t funnel your money into Trump and insurrectionist groups.

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GamerFSS86 t1_j6o39sk wrote

This was about a God damn pillow and you want to turn it into some political jab. Dude you have problems really bad problems go see a doctor. I hate political crap and the people who want to discuss it. It's poison.

I don't really care who the my pillow dude is I like his pillows I sleep comfortably at night.

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Fryphax t1_j60lwrp wrote

I really love the Sealy Posturepedic pillows. The one with the thick center section between both side. As a side sleeper it works great. Added bonus is it stays very cool so I don't find myself flipping it as often.

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inert_hominid t1_j61bw2j wrote

Solid (NOT the shredded) latex pillow of any brand. My partner had one from the time she was a child to 30 years later. She convinced me to try them out and now I'm never going back. If you're someone who needs a lot of support (like me), having a firm pillow to put under the latex one is a good idea, but it should be perfect for a side or stomach sleeper.

They generally run ~50$(us) for standard-size and can get over 100 for a king-size, but it's definitely worth it in my opinion.

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