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HappinessOrgan t1_jaeul1m wrote

Reply to comment by clearwind in How do you know if someone is actually toxic if they insist they are always joking? by RxstySp00ns

Bigggg disagree.

I have dynamics with some people where we reallyyyy rip on each other - like that shit gets creative. And if you're taking as much as your giving I see no problem. I also have many relationships where it comes no where close to that.

Not every toxic joke is rooted in sincerity. You just have to really know the people you choose to spend your time with

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clearwind t1_jaevhtx wrote

I would also disagree with your take, specifically that the friendly ribbing is a toxic joke, when both parties consent to the jokes that is when it stops being toxic, but the instant that someone removes that consent and the jokes continue that's when they become toxic jokes. In your example they would be on a precipice of becoming toxic without actually getting there.

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RxstySp00ns OP t1_jaf0ecp wrote

i do have this relationship with some of my friends. but this person takes it too far and makes the same "joke" over and over

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HappinessOrgan t1_jaf1to9 wrote

Yeah, I've read a few of your replies. It doesn't seem the same at all really as your case. So I wouldn't take it as advice for sure

I just think it's a really weak (and simplistic) opinion to over generalize like that person did. There are many reasons a person could be "toxic" to you without them actually being a toxic person

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