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AshyDunmer t1_jaelqv4 wrote
Asking the real question
goblinusMaximus t1_jaem1sj wrote
I feel like this is actually the most important bit. Am I sexually attracted to her? If so, the rest just seems like details.
TheBlackBrixtonSlag t1_jaelqxz wrote
*He
BridgetteBane t1_jaem9zo wrote
She.
TheBlackBrixtonSlag t1_jaemhq5 wrote
Nah.
Aggressive_Answer_86 t1_jaemhel wrote
OP said woman though
goblinusMaximus t1_jaelxuw wrote
That would vary based on the man answering question. For the sake of argument assume the trans woman is whose hotness is being discussed.
U_PassButter t1_jaelzh8 wrote
You
LowRadiant4707 t1_jaelsin wrote
Call for a second date!
FizzyBeverage t1_jaelrgk wrote
It was obviously convincing enough that I didn't notice anything was amiss, I'd be fine with it.
That being said, I've only been with cisgendered people... I'd assume trans men and women disclose that pretty upfront, particularly if they haven't had bottom surgery.
goblinusMaximus t1_jaem5p0 wrote
To my understanding they usually do, at bare minimum as a matter of safety. Some people get violent about any event that makes them question their own sexuality.
FizzyBeverage t1_jaeme8e wrote
I've read enough psychology texts to know that sexuality is fluid, and while I'm a cisgendered heterosexual man... that's just a human-made label. If I was blindfolded and a man or woman gave me oral pleasure and didn't speak or make any noises, would I know the difference? Likely not.
goblinusMaximus t1_jaemq13 wrote
Yeah. I think a lot of people take labels like 'straight' or 'gay' (or anything else) to be prescriptive rather than descriptive.
Being gay doesn't mean you're forbidden from finding the opposite gender attractive, but rather it describes what you're usually attracted to. Similar goes for being straight. Finding the same sex attractive (or a trans person) in no way alters your sexuality, just the word you might use to describe it.
U_PassButter t1_jaelt7z wrote
Sooooo, to be clear.....she has a vagina and a dick was put in it? Right?
goblinusMaximus t1_jaem8jv wrote
Maybe y'all did butt stuff in the dark, I suppose. But a vagina seems like the natural assumption.
Rubysage2 t1_jaelwod wrote
I am cool. Haven't had a date in so long I'm just going to enjoy the experience.
And if I didn't notice at all then I'm going to assume I was pretty darn attracted and we had fun anyways, so who cares? It didn't bother me the first time.
[deleted] OP t1_jaelypr wrote
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Aggressive_Answer_86 t1_jaem4yk wrote
Doesn’t make a difference to me what they are
vivivivivistan t1_jaem6uu wrote
"Men, what if you went on a date with a woman?" Is essentially what you're asking. Not just because trans women are women, but because from the way you phrase it, it sounds like I wouldn't have been able to tell she was trans until she mentioned it, so she might as well just not mention that she's trans since obviously it doesn't matter.
HornyStud74 t1_jaem768 wrote
If a trans woman was good in bed, try to do it again in a sober way and then yoy can ask yourself.
CR318 t1_jaemjbp wrote
I'll look at them like they had three heads
Necessary-Tap-1368 t1_jaetunb wrote
Puke until I died
gazeintoaninferno t1_jaemw0d wrote
I would suffer for the rest of my life with severe severe depression.
WhenAllElseFail t1_jaelm9t wrote
Is she hot?