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Falstaffe t1_j2fmwqy wrote

Reply to comment by Ideserveit34 in In people with ADHD, how prominent is an attitude of indifference to other people’s emotions and needs (physical, emotional, mental)? by Ideserveit34

I'm married to an ADD-PI woman. Not indifferent; rather, oblivious -- focussed on what's in front of her in the midst of all the noise in her head. When she realises she's missed something important, she's upset and tries to make things right. That's the prime difference between ADD and narcissism: narcissists never give a shit, ADD people are mortified when they realise what's happened.

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Ideserveit34 OP t1_j2fpco7 wrote

Damn…. Well that answers a question I just posed to another response. My ex gets defensive and tries to place the blame on me for “overreacting.” We’ve been trying to give it another try and it’s tough. Hurts my heart. She has admitted and acknowledged that she gets defensive automatically. And shows glimpses of affection and consideration/reciprocation to my feelings. But it’s far and few in between. Don’t know whether to be patient or just accept it’s not something I can deal with. She’s 30 I’m 35. Maybe too old to change habits 😞

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Falstaffe t1_j2fqna5 wrote

No-one’s too old to change. With the right medication and therapy, my wife has become much more active and proactive than she was. While it took time to find a combination that worked, it’s been so worth it.

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